We tell our kids when they have leg cramps that they’re probably just experiencing “growing pains” and not to fear. It seems we innately hold more tolerance for pain that is physical, as physicality seems so cut and dry. An arm is an arm, or so it appears. The pain is located inside of something tangible and that we understand. We trust it will pass; we have our arm to gauge whether or not it has. It’s like doing simple math.
Yet the majority of the pain we and our kids experience throughout life is not physical. It hangs around in the intangibles that cloak our physical. Every time it is denied voice, the more repressed of a singer it becomes. Until finally she starts steeping a bitter tea right into the physical we thought we could keep freed up. And so, it is for the repressed singer that I take the stand I do for pain’s expression. All the singer wants is to be given license to grieve her way through the song born of the sad story that is her. The story that doesn’t define her, that doesn’t even contain her, and yet, the story that consciousness is breathing into her.
So I stand up inside the pain for the sake of every repressed singer, so that her story may be felt all the way through, until evaporating into the mists of our mysterious incarnate world outside of our control. Because as mist, she will no longer have a sad tune; she will rise.
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A couple of days ago I received an email from a woman named Christina, and it really moved me. She gave me permission to share her words with my audience, which I do for you here below. They speak to the very reason why I’ve created The Betrayal Project, and are much appreciated fuel as I keep going with it…
“I wanted to share with you something of what happened to me after I watched your video about betrayal yesterday. I think it inspired me to take the stand I took with Geoffrey, a guy I’ve been dating the past three months….
I met with him this past Thursday night. I let him know that I was feeling closer to him and that I’m not dating anyone else (nor have any desire to) – and he indicated the same. I felt myself take a big leap in investing more of my heart into him all of last week.
Yesterday afternoon, he called me when his daughters were at rehearsal. He let me know what a wonderful time he had Thursday night, and then let me know he had set a date with someone else on Tuesday… MORE
Featured here is a box I made for the beautiful Sarah, star of a show on MTV. Expecting her first child, Sarah felt inclined to memorialize this moment of great transition in her life, intrigued by the idea of owning a “multidimensional snapshot of an artist’s perception of an individual.” I was enriched by the imagery I discovered in researching for Sarah’s box, as two of her favorite locations are the Scottish Highlands and CA’s Big Sur, both breathtaking. Along with these landscapes, I took Sarah’s activities of interest (like going on road trips with her husband, nesting in the nursery, or dancing alone), her favorite foods (Cara Cara oranges and mashed potatoes – and let me restate mashed potatoes), and her approaching motherdom, and merged them with the forever most important goal of Sarah’s life: to have a strong, vibrant, and loving family.
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This was one of the matchboxes I made a year ago for a contributor to my Kickstarter Matchbox Me campaign. Eduardo ordered two boxes, one for him and one for his wife Jenny, hoping that they might serve as unique mirrors of themselves and of home; objects they could take with them wherever they relocated. A fellow Capricorn like me, I’m not surprised Eduardo loves his pencils and drawing, his stamp collection, his childhood soccer trophy, and that his major preoccupation is building a US-based career. He loves DC and Europe; Spanish, Greek, and Mexican foods; and he can often be found in comic book stores. So here you have a mini 3D snapshot of Eduardo from an interests perspective!
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Featured here is a specialty multimedia box I was commissioned to make as a gift for a woman who has lived and breathed by the passion of her belief in art’s ability to create enormous social and developmental impact, and who has dedicated her life to its flowering.
For this work, I decided to use a 16″ wide Tenk Hardware Co. seed box from the 50s. This afforded me the chance to use the increasingly widening partitioned spaces (relating to the value of its four originally housed seed types) to showcase what I arrived at being the four most important sectors of my subject’s life, according to their “rank” or priority. Perhaps such ranking is futile. One’s major loves may hold equal space in the heart. But extensive research on my subject had me feel convinced that the widest space of this box needed to be allotted to her family; herself as a mother, a sister, and a daughter en route from Cleveland to New York, and those journeys that took place in-between. It could be seen as cluttered, this room I created. It’s intended to be as chaotic as raising a big family can be, yet bursting with the same colorful rewards that go along with it.
Next at left is the “dining room” representing my subject’s love of artists, and the home entertaining she is known for. This room I papered and decorated in works from her own personal collection, as well as persons in the arts who have held significance for her, simply but a few to represent the many.
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I was approached on Facebook last summer by an undeniably sharp, eccentric, enthusiastically maternal, and creatively driven woman named Elana. She was interested in having a turning point in her life memorialized in matchbox form. Having moved to Berkeley for her husband’s job, and having focused much of her energy into helping her son Maxie overcome speech and sociability challenges in his formative years, Elana was ready to start fueling herself from the inside out with a progressive business direction that mattered to her and that was born of her own terms; one that could hone her talents for writing, design, and the conceptual realms of life she is so clearly fluent in.
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